I tend to write my blogs in two's just because I tend to write only when I have a lot on my mind and it always seems to be a lot of different topics that wouldn't make sense in one blog! As I mentioned earlier Taylor was just adopted last week. One of the reasons (or really I think the entire reason) the papers we're signed was because we forgave him of over 26,000 dollars in back child support! Although this angered me since I know I will never be forgiven of any debt simply for the reason that I'm irresponsible , or that I changed my mind and decided I didn't want to what was expected of me! I felt this money was owed to me! But at the same time I knew there was no other way. If we did not go through with this chances we're that he would not sign the papers, we would go through a trial and face the chances that Tony could win some visitations! This was not a risk we we're willing to take. So therefore a lot will change in our house financially. Although we had gone through some dry spells with not getting any child support we had also gotten it a lot of times, sometimes adding up to $500 dollars a month. At times we depended on this money to survive. It wasn't smart but it's what we had to do sometimes. It was always a nice thing to open my checking account and see a couple extra $100 dollars I hadn't expected. Looking back I wish we would have been smart and put it into a savings account so that when a situation like this happened we would never really know what it was like to have it in the 1st place!
Now for the weird flip side that hit me today! What a BLESSING this is! Yes of course getting the adoption done was a blessing, there is no question there! But out of nowhere I felt that no longer getting this money is the best thing for us! In church we've been hearing about so many families that live off of far less then what we do! I feel like this will help us to see what things we REALLY NEED to live off of! Like I mean NEED! I like to think that I am a thrifty shopper, but indeed I am a shopper. So it doesn't matter how thrifty you are if you do it often you can find yourself in trouble! This can be the same case with eating out, entertainment, and heck even grocery shopping! With only one very little credit card, and a teeny tiny savings we have nothing to fall back on! I use to think heck I'm sure I'll get child support so we can go out to eat or what not!
With the holidays quickly approaching money can be the first thing to come into our minds. Because indeed you do need money to buy gifts! And indeed that is what we sadly tend to focus on during the holidays. There has to be a way to still have a rockin' Christmas without all the worry of presents and money! So this year I am trying to be as creative as possible with ways we can give back to those less fortunate! I want to show my kids just how important it is to think of others and focus less with what cool presents are under the tree!
With that being said I also plan to try to stick to as many homemade gifts as possible, that can go with things my kids already own. Through the years I have very much learned that just because I think it's super crazy cool, my kids will probably lose interest very quickly and it will get ruined or lost! So here is to a new mindset! I think this just may be our best Christmas yet! May yours be great as well!
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